A is for Attitude! What kind of attitude do you have about your marriage?

This was supposed to be posted on Thursday for ABC’s of a Happier Marriage! Enjoy

ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING! As I discussed in my previous post about finances, the same holds true when it comes to a marriage. Are you positive about your marriage or are you one of those people who constantly complain about what your spouse is doing or not doing?  Ask yourself something else; Do “I” support them 110%? This could make for a very short relationship if you are doing nothing but complaining and showing no support. Money is the worst evil in a marriage unless you have a great attitude about it, first.

Money can be a good topic to discuss or it can also be a negative topic to talk about, but you and your spouse make that decision. When my wife and I had money issues for the first time, we were at each others throats playing the blame game. What exactly was that solving, besides some lawyer about to make around $3,000 off of our mistake? If you want to throw away $3000, send the check or money order to PO BOX 233, Paola, KS 66071 and we will be glad to take that money off your hands. Instead discuss the situation with your spouse, agree to talk like adults and promise not to attack each other. Don’t play the blame game!

Which brings me to what seems to be another negative word in a marriage, communication, hopefully you have heard of it. For some of you I probably just said another bad word, well it doesn’t have to be.  Make it a point to have a meeting with your spouse at least once a week, but should be more. If Susanna and I can do it and we have 7 children, 4 dogs and a very busy life owning several businesses, than I am sure that most of you can do it too!

And the last topic in our short story of attitude for a happier marriage is “SEX”. Yep, I said it, SEX! Hey, you reading this and giggling, you definitely need to talk to your spouse. Seriously are you happy with your sex life? We are all adults here, if you aren’t happy with your sex life or lack of, than WHY? Please don’t share with me, communicate your issues with your spouse. Sit down in your weekly meeting, with no one else around of course, and discuss how things could change or how can I make it better. Do something about it! Do something special or maybe something you haven’t done in a while to show your spouse that you love them and lust after them. It doesn’t hurt to know that your spouse still finds you attractive.

Attitude is everything! Have a great attitude about your marriage and you will have a great marriage. It may take time but it will happen. Your assignment is to start having a private weekly meeting with your spouse and discuss what is bothering you, communicate about your money issues, and discuss that sex life that you want. Assignment #2, yep you have two assignments. Assignment number two is that I want you to pull out an old picture of your spouse from either when you met them or when you married them. LOOK at it! What did you see in them then that you don’t see now? Share with them what you feel has changed. Then share with me your experience about what happened when you talked with them. Take it from a guy who has been married 7 years, has 7 children and the best life possible. Enjoy Life, Marriage, Money, Children and Success even in the small things.

Jason J Culbertson

Jul 31, 2009 | ABC's of a Happier Marriage | 1 Comment »